Divorce is a dreadful thought for most people. It conjures up images of court battles over the most personal issues we can imagine. These sensitive matters are given to strangers to decide based on laws and cases that donât take into account our individual situation. Worst of all, our children get pulled apart in the process.
While divorce is a difficult decision, it does not have to be the mass destruction that we fear most. Over the past few decades, a community of attorneys, therapists, financial planners and others have been working to create an alternative path for couples who have decided that divorce is necessary but who want to move through the process with dignity and, if applicable, focusing on the best interest of the children.
Collaborative Law is the result of these efforts. With Collaborative Law, you and your spouse agree to engage specially trained lawyers who guide you through a series of non-adversarial meetings to design an agreement tailored to your specific needs and goals. You can engage additional team members such as a financial expert, a child development specialist or therapists to help you and your spouse in the decision-making process.
While all divorce is painful and challenging, the Collaborative process affords you and your spouse the opportunity to maintain your dignity and integrity as you end your marriage. If you have children, it offers the best possibility of preserving the parenting relationship, which, for better or worse, lasts a lifetime.
Consider the Collaborative process if you want to keep things as civil as possible but you donât see eye to eye on what should happen with your assets and debts, retirement benefits, spousal support and childrenâs issues.
For more information on Collaborative Practice, visit the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals website.